For 72 Hours I’m Doing Something So You Don’t Die With These Regrets

by Houston Vetter - DocResults on March 8,

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Most of us when we start out as young adults have the desire of creating a life in a way where we don’t have regrets and for 72 hours I’m doing something specifically so you don’t die with these regrets. What regrets am I talking about? I’m talking about The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying and everyone of them is not about something you did but about something you did not do. If you don’t deal with them now you’ll have these regrets later so for the next 72 hours I’m going to help you do something about it.

One of our expert panel, Morty Lefkoe wrote an article quoting what “Bronnie Ware” an Australian nurse who spent several years caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives and what they said they regretted the most about dying. Morty is an expert in beliefs and he list the top 5 regrets people have about dying and then he lets you know what beliefs created the problem and at the end I want to do something about it for you and I’ll get to that after you identify with these regrets.

Don’t Die With These Regrets

Ms Ware writes…

“When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:”

1.  “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life
 others expected of me.

“This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.”

Notice that Ms. Ware said they knew they had surrendered their dreams “due to choices they had made, or not made.”  And what determined their choices?  Beliefs such as:

It’s selfish to do what I want.  I’m not worthy.  I don’t deserve to have what I want.  Mistakes and failure are bad.  If I make a mistake or fail I’ll be rejected.  What makes me good enough and important is having people think well of me.  The way to survive is to do what others want me to do.  I’m not good enough.

2.  “I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

“This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their 
children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this 
regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female
 patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted 
spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.”

The behavior leading to this regret is caused by many beliefs, the most important being:What makes me good enough and important are my achievements.  What makes me good enough or important is being successful.

3. “I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they
 were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the 
bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.”

Here are some beliefs that could keep people from expressing their feelings: My feelings are not important.  If I express my feelings I’ll be rejected.  What makes me good enough or important is having people think well of me.  Anger and conflict are dangerous.

4.  “I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

“Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until 
their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many 
had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden 
friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not 
giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses 
their friends when they are dying.”

Not staying in touch with friends could be caused by such beliefs as:  What makes me good enough or important are my achievements.  What makes me good enough or important is being successful.  You have to work hard to make money.  If I express myself I’ll get hurt.  Relationships are painful.

5.  “I wish that I had let myself be happier.

“This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that 
happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The 
so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well 
as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and 
to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to 
laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”

Read that again.  They “did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice.” Get rid of the beliefs that might keep you from realizing that happiness is a choice.

Life is difficult.  You have to take life seriously.  Having fun is childish and stupid.  Mistakes and failure are bad.  If I make a mistake or fail I’ll be rejected.  What makes me good enough or important is having people think well of me.

Don’t allow your beliefs to cause you to reach the end of your life having lived an unfulfilled life.  Eliminate all the beliefs that could keep you from living a full life, from pursuing your dreams, from having your life be all that it can be.

To read more: http://www.mortylefkoe.com/regret_dying/#

As I read this the sadder I got because, I know how easy it is to change your beliefs so you don’t have these regrets. At first, I thought I know what I’ll do I’ll do something I’ve never done before I’ll give $100 off a personal session with me. That is a great deal and we could do a lot of change work during that time and then I realized we wouldn’t be able to get at all the core beliefs. We could get to the one’s Morty mentioned above but those are just a few of the 41 core beliefs that we have identified.

So I thought since in the beginning, I was going to give you $100 off a personal session (and you can still get that if you want, email me at docresults@gmail.com) I could do better than that. Recently, people have been buying  ‘The Way To Happinesswhich is our Alignment Training, aligning your core beliefs for $245, the normal price is $399, if I give you another $100 off that it brings your investment in yourself to only $145 which is lower than $100 off a personal coaching session.

Now that’s a great deal.

The savings are only good for the next 72 hours, by Sunday the 11th the savings will be gone. Buy now you really want this program and with the savings it is something you can’t live happily without. So get this today so you don’t die with these regrets.

Please share this with all your friends today and they can get the same deal.

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sensei sasanuma March 8, 2012 at 2:46 pm

“Happiness is a choice.” Does that mean that most people have chosen to live Unhappy ???

Can you explain to me more??

Thank you

Sensei

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Houston Vetter - DocResults March 8, 2012 at 3:32 pm

Sensei,

Happiness is ONLY a choice when one knows it is a choice. If one does not know they have a million dollars in the bank, it’s not choice that keeps them from getting to it only the state of not knowing what is theirs. Most live in the state of not knowing they have a choice about happiness.

To Your Best,
Houston
Dr. Vetter – DocResults.com

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